The art of losing well

Our parents and coaches tell us throughout our childhood there is much to learn from failure.

How we embrace those lessons of childhood often determine our successes in life.

We have all witnessed the angry hockey mom who blames all her child’s failures on the referees, coaches or other players.

We’ve also witnessed the parents who believe their ‘little Johnny’ can do no wrong, someone else is always at fault.

But the majority of coaches and parents use defeat as a teaching moment.

Failure can teach us to identify our shortcomings and take responsibility for our own actions.

Failure, well learned, evolves into strong, character traits in adulthood.

How to work with people we don’t particularly like or respect.

How to control our emotions and respond reasonably when handling a big loss or under stress.

How to take responsibility for our own mistakes and stop the blame game. How to compromise and be respectful of everyone. How to regard the feelings and priorities of others and not just think of #1.

Timeless lessons that the federal Conservative Party and Alberta’s UPC Party need to take to heart after the disappointing federal election results.

Trudeau slammed Big Oil in the waning days of the election while campaigning in Quebec because he needed votes. Kenney slammed Trudeau prior to and during his current run as Alberta’s Premier to turn Alberta and Canada blue. Now the two boys need to work together.

Kenney can drop the conspiracy theory that Trudeau bought the TMX pipeline to kill it which is 4.5 billion dollars of nonsense. The pipeline was dead, the private sector had walked away.

Trudeau’s focus has always been jobs balanced with saving the environment— jobs for the oil patch in Alberta and Saskatchewan (AlSask) and jobs for SNC-Lavalin employees in Ontario and Quebec.

He tried to cross the rule of law with SNC-Lavalin and got severely chastised by Canadians.

He’s following the rule of law in defending against pipeline court challenges but, alas, he’s getting hammered by both environmentalists and Big Oil.

When Jason Kenney was a minister in the Stephen Harper government, he was always seen as a statesman—reasonable and respectful towards Opposition members, immigrants and those who did not share his beliefs or values.

He was often touted as a good candidate for Prime Minister someday.

But his decision to enthusiastically embrace Doug Ford and his use of the Alberta premiership to campaign for Andrew Scheer in Eastern Canada hurt his reputation on the national stage, especially in Ontario.

Alberta has lost the battle on climate change.

Polls even before the election showed two-thirds of Canadians believe climate warming is real and urgent.

Conservatives need to come to grips that outside AlSask most Canadians believe that serious actions need to be taken to save our planet.

The majority of the 70 per cent who want action don’t hate AlSask and do understand the economic value of Alberta to Canada.

Their message is simply, “Get with the future, Big Oil is not dead, but declining. Big Energy is the future and the earth is a necessity.”

Kenney said the worst possible outcome for the federal election would be a minority Liberal government, but it need not be.

Some reflection time on the lessons of defeat could garner some gems of wisdom—such as ‘honey works better than vinegar’.

It is only when all major political leaders (the losers and the winners) believe Canada is bigger than any one province, or any one region, or any one industry that true compromise for the good of the whole country is possible.


B. Schimke 

ECA Review

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